welcome to limbo

Your 20’s are great.

They are a time for exploration, discovery, wing-spreading, and everything in between. Your 20’s are a time in your life when you can really let things fly off the handle or settle into a job for the rest of your life and no one will think too much about it.

Whether you take your 20’s to run wild, act “responsibly,” or choose your own unique path, the ages from 20 to 30 are dripping in expectations. Personal, professional, relational, and familial expectations.

Sure, maybe your parents are encouraging you to “find your passions.” Or perhaps your college professor told you to go straight to grad school. Or maybe all of your friends moved to New York, so you did too.

Each of these scenarios, and any other I could come up with, drags a whole cart full of expectations along with it. These expectations beg the question: “What now?”, prompting us to take action. However, when I’ve found myself confronting expectations and jumping into action to “figure it out,” I am tripping over uncertainty and a litany of questions.

As I’ve posed some of my questions, I’ve quickly realized no one has the perfect answer. No one can give you a failproof step by step plan of how to get from age 20 to 30 seamlessly and question-free.

As a newly twenty-four year-old woman, I have a running list of questions I’m in search of answers for and opinions on. I’ve been asking these questions of myself (who definitely doesn’t have the answers), my friends (who are typically asking the same things), my family members (who sometimes give answers I don’t yet understand), and the world around me (who, let’s face it, has seen better days).

So, as I’ve navigated going to college, graduating, finding a job, finding a place to live and people to live with in a city I like, I’ve stumbled over question after question, decision after decision. Up until this point, I’ve figured a lot out as I went, with the added help and council from those around me.

Yet, as I enter my twenty-fourth year wandering around, I find myself still confronted by everything I simply do not know yet. I know I’ve had significant growth and experiences during the past four years, but I am still asking a ton of questions every single day, and receiving a highly disproportionate number of concrete answers.

So, I am here to explore some of the questions I’ve had since I stepped into my twenties. I’ve been asking some of these questions for years, and some I’ve only just started poking at.

I promise no definitive answers. All of my answers are subject to review. Any question I attempt to answer is based on personal experience and up to others’ interpretations. Anything and everything I say could be a joke.

Your 20’s are great. Or so I’ve heard.

Questions encouraged.

– Kit, 24